The “Wine Mom” Era Is Ending And It’s About Time
For years, moms were sold the idea that a glass (or two… or three) of wine was “self-care.”
A badge of honor, even.
A way to cope, connect, unwind, belong.
But more and more of us are waking up to the truth: wine isn’t helping.
In fact, it’s doing the exact opposite.
Let’s talk about why the wine-mom era is fading — and what’s taking its place.
1. Alcohol destroys our sleep (especially REM).
We’ve all been told wine helps you relax, but the science is crystal clear:
Alcohol fragments your sleep and dramatically reduces REM — the exact stage your brain needs for emotional regulation, memory, stress recovery, and hormonal balance.
So yes, you may fall asleep faster…
but you wake up tired, irritable, anxious, and unfocused.
That’s not self-care — that’s self-sabotage.
2. It creates anxiety spikes (and most women never connect the dots).
The “hangxiety” the next morning?
That pit in your stomach?
That sense of overwhelm for no clear reason?
Alcohol literally rewires your brain chemistry and causes rebound anxiety as it leaves your system.
We’ve been blaming our kids, our hormones, our schedules…
when wine was the culprit all along.
3. We’re craving REAL self-care — and it looks different for every mom.
True self-care fills you up instead of drains you.
It gives you energy, clarity, presence, and actual peace.
For me, that means:
• Sunday morning yoga
• An hour a day moving my body
• A monthly pedicure
• And true connection with the people I love
Not a substance in a glass pretending to be relief.
4. I am NOT a better mom with wine.
I’m a better mom when I have:
• energy
• emotional stability
• presence
• patience
• and a clear mind
Alcohol takes those things away — every single time.
And I know I’m not alone in that realization.
So yes… the wine-mom era is ending.
A new era is here:
One where we choose ourselves.
Where we choose to feel.
Where we choose clarity over coping.
Where real connection replaces numbness.
Who’s with me?